Mama Kat’s Writer’s Workshop: ‘Tattle Management’

TattlingWere you a tattler? Did people always tattle on you? It’s obvious that tattlers are very difficult to deal. My own daughters Isabella and Julianna ages 9 and 11 are always tattling on each other. It’s enough to drive my wife and I over the edge on a daily basis. There really are so hard set rules of dealing with this in my house. I also experience the problem in my classroom but I feel I am getting a little better at managing it.

When a kid comes to me tattling at work, I teach 4th grade and have for 17 years, I don’t have the parent luxury of just sloughing it off. Usually I have to go the full 9 yards in dealing with it. I need the child to know I am concerned and will take care of the situation so she/he feels safe in school. Sometimes this is easier said than done. For example, a couple of days ago one child came to me all upset because she said another student had stolen her “brother’s pencil.” I though the possessive of a family member was a nice touch for extra tattling power. First of all, at the beginning of the year I give my students pencils so it wasn’t an issue of not having something to write with.

To the layperson out there: “What would you do?”

Ok now I will tell you the right way I sometimes handle it. I asked briefly for a confession. After that I told them both they could think about it for a while or they could both report to me at recess and we would take their statements and I would make a decision what to do. In this case, both agreed to drop it. What’s more, this is what happens in these situations 90% of the time. Tattlers should be heard but at the same time, kids need to develop a filter of what needs tattling and what is just part of consequences for things like leaving your brother’s pencil out for someone to steal.

Mama's Losin' It

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Author: Damien Riley

I'm an online diarist, blog film critic, & podcaster. My views on films and life are often 'left of center' on, but I have respect for other viewpoints. I married my high-desert princess (now my queen). We have 3 children.